I believe self care is the small act of checking in with yourself every single day and asking yourself two questions. Of course there are days when self care can be luxury items like a massage, a facial or a day out with the girlfriends. But these luxury items build on the foundations of what you do every single day.
There are two questions I believe you need to be asking yourself every day.
- How am I feeling?
- What do I need today?
The answers to the questions can be completely limitless, especially if you lived in a world where you could ditch your daily responsibilities, but let’s be practical for a moment. You have committed yourself to responsibilities with your family, and it is time to congratulate yourself on this. Rather than finding yourself dragging your feet along the ground because you have to go to work when Monday rolls around, consider instead a mind shift. How awesome is it that you get to go to your job that allows you to provide for your family? Whether you realise it or not, there are times when self care is paying the bills, cleaning the house and doing the grocery shopping, because if you did not do this where would you be?
There comes times when you ask yourself these questions, “How am I feeling?” and “What do I need today?”, and you ignore the answers and push through. Thoughts run through the mind of not wanting to let others down, or you struggle when it comes to giving yourself the gift of your own time. The thing is, you can choose to give yourself what you need. I know that there are times when it is not easy to do this, and this checking in with yourself is not about adding extra pressure to yourself or your day. It is an internal check in and a way to look after yourself. You give so much to everyone in your life, it is a reminder that once a day you can give something to yourself. So while you can ask yourself these questions, it is the action that will make the difference. You truly do deserve to honour yourself every day.
So if you are one of those beautiful people who can comfortably say “I need this”, and then don’t actually do what you need, I would really love to encourage you to commit to action on what you need for seven days.
I would love to hear from you in the comments below. Is asking yourself “what do I need today?” something you could do? Or is it something you are already doing? Let me know.