The single step
“I just need to get motivated, you know, get more positive about myself!”
How many times have you been harsh or critical on yourself because of that feeling you aren’t doing enough towards your goals? Have you ever stopped and really paid attention to the words that run through your mind, and noticed what you actually say to yourself?
All in the hope that the panicky energy sitting in your stomach and chest will disappear.
Our desire for our lives to be perfect seeps into everything, and it runs deep. Holding us to high expectations of ourselves, being really critical and this constant feeling of what you are doing isn’t enough.
When it comes to setting goals there are so many memes and motivational posts on Instagram, Facebook and everywhere we turn, reminding us to “DREAM BIG”. There is this unwritten expectation that if you are setting a goal, it has to be a BIG life changing goal.
So instead of setting a goal to lose 2 kilos, the goal is set to lose 20, wanting to move more becomes you are going to run a 10km fun run, wanting to declutter your pantry turns into a complete turn the house upside down, no corner is left untouched, everything must go clean.
When we set our goals, we set the bar really high which can also cause us to place a huge pressure on ourselves.
This isn’t about discouraging you from dreaming big. I want you to have that amazing vision you hold for yourself in 12 months and I also want you to feel like daily you are making progress towards it. It’s about seeing the 100 little steps between where you are right now, and that goal you have set.
“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step” Lao Tzu
The thoughts that swirl around in our minds all play a part in the progress taken, and it’s common that as we set our goals or write out to-do lists, we make it bigger than we can take on and it’s not long then until we become really harsh on ourselves.
The thoughts of “I can’t do this”, “I am a failure”, “I will never get there”, “I am going backwards” and so many more all coming at you hard and fast. It’s like you have a backpack on and with each thought you are adding more and more weight to it. Causing your shoulders to start to hunch over, and your belief in yourself to lessen. The weight of all those highly critical thoughts becoming too much. The thoughts that are collected in that backpack, are taken onboard as proof and evidence, with a defeated sigh those thoughts are believed to be true.
Your goal now seems so much further away.
All those little steps along the way between Point A and Point B all matter. It’s those things that seem like “well that’s not enough” or “that’s not going to make a difference”.
They make a bigger collective difference than what you realise in the moments.
So when overwhelm hits you, and that goal you are wanting seems like it is on the other side of the world, I want you to remember the importance of all the small steps along the way, and ask yourself “What is the one thing I will do today?”.