2018: Do you already feel like you are behind?
As the new year begins we can have feelings of joy, excitement and wonder, as we look forward to everything we plan to achieve in the year ahead. It feels fresh and the options seem endless. There can be long to-do lists and goals written.
However, there are times when the new year can be filled with feelings of being overwhelmed, and have a genuine confusion and uneasiness to it. It can be a time when comparisons hit and the pang in the stomach reminds us that once again “I don’t have my life together”.
Days are spent scrolling through everyone’s perfect social media feed, filled with stunning photos of their 12-month oracle card spread, and their word (or words) of the year. All the fresh new diaries that make you rush to the shops and buy the stationery that will make you successful for 2018.
However the more days you get into the new year, the more you feel further behind from everyone. This was meant to be your year. You feel the pressure to make up for everything you did not achieve last year.
If this is where you find yourself, unsure of what goals to set, feeling overwhelmed and behind, I want to reassure you that everything will be okay. Goals and intentions can be set at any time throughout the year.
I want to offer you two steps that may help you navigate, and feel back in control of, 2018.
Wrap up, celebrate and let go of 2017
I believe in honouring the year that was. I understand there are years where there is lots to celebrate and then there are those years that, honestly, we are grateful to see the back of. Whichever 2017 was for you, I feel that it is important to honour it and release it.
It’s not about getting caught up in everything we did not do. It’s about seeing that even though life isn’t perfect, you are enough.
If you have not already, create some time and space to say “good bye” to last year. 2017 was a huge year of personal growth for me, and I shared some lessons on my last post with you. By saying farewell to 2017 it allows you to energetically cut the ties and create a fresh space to invite 2018 in.
Give yourself permission to want what you want
There are times, that perhaps even without realizing it, we can weigh ourselves down with other’s expectations of us, rather than giving yourself permission to want what we want.
Do you find yourself saying “well I should do this”, or “I don’t have time for me”? Then this may be where you find yourself.
I would encourage you to have a look at how everyone else expects you to show up – from your parents, to your partner, coworkers, employer and even our friends. Start by bring some awareness to it, have a look at the top ten expectations those around you have of you and check in with does this feel right for me?
To begin living unapologetically remind yourself daily, you are allowed to want what you want. What do you need to do to give yourself this permission?