When you hear the word love, what is that comes to mind? Is it a person you love, your family, your partner or perhaps your fur babies? Or is it a treasured memory you have? All those little moments spent with those closest to you? Like the nights you stayed up late chatting and laughing away?
However, if I was to ask you to list all the people you love in your life, how long would it take to list yourself?
Somewhere along the line between a little girl and being an adult, I believe the message got all messed up. We were taught to judge and criticise ourselves, rather than give ourselves love and acceptance which leaves us with feeling like we are just not good enough. Not skinny enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough, not funny enough, we are just not enough. Somewhere we were taught that we need to walk through life feeling like we are not enough.
While this may be how it has been, we do not need to carry this way of thinking with us into the future.
The change can start right now.
The change can start with you.
The change is LOVE.
Oh how I wished I could just click my fingers and you could just wake up tomorrow loving yourself. So I will pass on five tips to help you love yourself a little more –
- Be aware of how you talk to yourself
You spend the most amount of time with yourself, and how you speak to you is so important. If you make a mistake at work, what do you say to yourself? Are you berating yourself, or accepting that mistakes happen? Start to bring awareness to what you are saying, and just ask yourself would you say that to your best friend?
- Notice what you say about others
Being aware of what you say about others, especially when they are not around, is an important awareness to have. You see, this criticising ourselves can easily also be criticising others and when you are trying to bring more love into your life, it is something you want to share around.
- Write a list of all the things you like about yourself
Keep it in your journal, or put it on the fridge or your desk at work. Remind yourself whenever you need it of all the amazing things about yourself.
- Go easy on yourself
If you are someone who does judge and criticise yourself, go easy on yourself through this journey. It is not going to change overnight; it is small steps every day. On those days when it feels like we go backwards as well, you need to go easy on yourself, you are doing a great job, it just all takes time.
- Who you surround yourself with matters
If you surround yourself with judgemental people, you are likely to be more judgemental. However, as Oprah says, “Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher”
This may mean you might have to try new things to meet new people. For those of you in Brisbane looking to connect with like-minded women, you may want to check out my Women’s Connection Circle. This event is an intimate gathering of twelve women only, and it is a chance for you to take some time out just for you. You can find more details here.