The circle of judgement. Perhaps you can relate. You sit around with your girlfriends all chatting, gossiping, and judging others for any reason under the sun. Then you head home and all you can do for the rest of the day is be so critical of everything you do. The next morning you see some of your girlfriends at the shops talking to each other, instantly you start thinking that they are talking about you, that they don’t like you, and you are wondering what you have done wrong. This circle goes round and round and round.
Perhaps you reach a point where you decide you want out of this, so you decide to not actively involve yourself in the conversations, not really saying much about others, however in your head you are thinking, how did they just say that? You head home for the day, and then when talking to your partner at the end of the day debriefing, you start saying how you tried so hard not to be involved in the gossiping, that you felt you had to bite your tongue a few times, because they said this? Can you believe that they said it? The next day you find your girlfriends chatting away at the shops again, and again you wonder what did you do wrong? Perhaps they do not like what I am wearing?
Judgement breeds judgement. It is a circle which keeps going around. You judge others, others judge you, you judge yourself.
Is this the way it has to be?
I would like to suggest not.
Imagine this instead. You catch up with your friends, and instead of talking about others, you talk about your passions and what lights you up, you know those deep soul conversations? You walk away from spending time with them with your energy high, a bounce in your step, a smile on your face. You head home and because you feel motivated you get stuck into your to-do list, and start to notice you are not constantly putting yourself down. You see your friends the next day at the shops chatting away, and you head straight to them and join in on the conversation. Not one moment hesitating or second guessing their motive or intention. You leave this conversation feeling amazing and this carries on for the rest of the day.
As the quote goes;
Surround yourself with people who are going to lift you higher.
(Day Twenty-Nine: My focus for the month of April, is to blog everyday. I am setting aside 30 minutes at the end of the day to connect with my message to share with you. The idea behind this, is to limit the overthinking, to minimise the censoring and just to connect with a theme I would like to share for the day.)