Your worth is not defined by other people’s opinions of you.
Oh how I wish this was an easy lesson to learn, and one that once we learnt it we never had to re-learn it. However, that is not the case for me, it is something that I go through stages with.
There are times when I completely feel like what every one around me is saying is an attack on me, and they are putting me down. Seriously, why can we just not take people at face value? If someone around us says something nice about you, why do we laugh it off or say BUT … and list ten reasons to put ourselves down?
Then there are times I think I have got this lesson. This is when I walk around with a Teflon armour coating all around me, with a smile and a polite thank-you. And what I end up doing is at the end of the day reflecting back on my day, and put a negative spin on anything nice someone has said to me all day.
Then there are the times I have really got this lesson. I feel different, I feel calm, peaceful and proud of myself. It is a time when I am confident, and when I don’t doubt myself and second guess every decision I make. I clearly express what I am saying and everything runs smoothly. I am not double-guessing myself or other’s intentions. It is a great place to be in, and one I miss when I am not there.
Logically my head knows other’s opinions of me does not define my worth, however my heart goes through stages when it just does not feel this way. I am learning to ride this wave as it happens. Valuing myself is something that I am constantly going to be working on, I feel any important relationship we have will always need us to commit to and work on continually. Our relationship with ourselves is the most important one we have, and one we need to nurture as much as we can.
(Day Fourteen: My focus for the month of April, is to blog everyday. I am setting aside 30 minutes at the end of the day to connect with my message to share with you. The idea behind this, is to limit the overthinking, to minimise the censoring and just to connect with a theme I would like to share for the day.)