Oh Social Media.
We could discuss for hours the negatives and the positives, whether it is adding to our lives, or taking away from our lives. And it is a topic so many have an incredibly strong opinion about.
For me, I personally feel social media is here to stay, and I will use in it a way which feels right to me. My husband is a tech head, so social media it is a part of our every day life. It is the way it works for us, and when we want to spend quality time together without sitting on our phones you will usually find us out of the house – we chat while driving to places, we go for walks through the city, or we go out for a coffee. By stepping outside of the house, it is like a switch in our brain to turn off social media and spend time connecting in real life.
However, I got side tracked a little there about what I wanted to talk about today. I have found myself wondering lately – does your social media interaction make you feel distant from your friends?
So have you ever caught yourself saying – oh but they only liked my post, however wrote a novel on another friend’s post?
Or perhaps, you have noticed check ins and photos of them with other friends, however you can not remember the last time you actually saw each other?
Social media can be a positive in our lives too, however there are times when we find ourselves doubting the quality of our friendship, perhaps even thinking of hiding them. It can have doubt running wild in our heads. And if you are an over thinker, your head is having a field day with this. I know the times I have felt this way, it is quite a heavy feeling in the pit of my stomach. You can get caught up in this FOMO, and wondering if you even have a friend anymore.
Is this something you can relate to?
If so, I would like to suggest, if you are feeling distance in your friendship for any reason, it may not even be based on social media. I would suggest to reach out. To send your friend a message, write them a letter or give them a phone call. Let them know you miss them, that they are special to you, and suggest to organise a catch up. Majority of the time, this will be met with the same response, they will let you know that they have missed you.
Catch this one before it spirals out of control, be vulnerable with your friendship, and share how you are feeling. Because your friends have your back.
(Day Nine: My focus for the month of April, is to blog everyday. I am setting aside 30 minutes at the end of the day to connect with my message to share with you. The idea behind this, is to limit the overthinking, to minimise the censoring and just to connect with a theme I would like to share for the day.)